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Understanding Perimenopause: A Guide to Thriving Through Your Body's Transition

Lexi Marshall
Understanding Perimenopause: A Guide to Thriving Through Your Body's Transition

For generations, women have navigated hot flashes, night sweats, weight gain and insomnia in relative silence. Many experienced profound physical and emotional changes without understanding they were connected to perimenopause. Today, a different conversation is emerging — one that empowers women with knowledge, normalizes these natural transitions and offers proven strategies for not just surviving perimenopause, but thriving through it.

What Is Perimenopause, Really?

Perimenopause is the transitional period surrounding menopause, lasting up to 10 years before your periods stop entirely. During this time, your ovaries gradually reduce hormone production, triggering a cascade of changes throughout your body.

"I often think about perimenopause as feeling like a teenager emotionally with worsened PMS and mood swings as well as having less regular, often worse periods," explains Dr. Laura Boyer, an obstretrician/gynecologist (OB/GYN) at Vail Health. "Many women describe it as 'just not feeling like myself.'"

You might suddenly experience unexplained heat waves, notice your waistline expanding despite unchanged eating habits or struggle to sleep through the night. As Boyer notes, it's "kind of like the movie 13 Going on 30 except it's 13 going on 45."

Additional symptoms often include:
  • Vaginal dryness and painful intercourse
  • Decreased libido
  • Brain fog and difficulty concentrating
  • Joint pain
  • Changes in hair texture and skin elasticity


Why Your Symptoms Deserve Medical Attention

Many women hesitate to discuss perimenopausal symptoms with their doctors, dismissing them as an inevitable part of aging. This perspective overlooks two critical points.

First, your symptoms could signal other health conditions requiring treatment, such as uterine fibroids, thyroid disorders or even certain cancers can mimic perimenopausal changes. Specific conditions like lichen sclerosus, which causes vulvar itching and pain, need targeted intervention and monitoring.

Second, just because perimenopause is natural doesn't mean you should suffer through it without support. Effective treatments exist, both hormonal and non-hormonal, that can dramatically improve your quality of life.

"I'm not here to talk you into trying treatment," Boyer emphasizes. "I'm here to help empower you to understand the options and the facts so you can make an informed decision."


Movement as Medicine

Women living in mountain communities may possess a unique advantage as they enter midlife. An active lifestyle, including hiking, skiing, cycling and strength training, provides powerful protection against perimenopausal symptoms.

But the benefits of physical activity extend far beyond symptom management. Regular aerobic exercise increases endorphins that alleviate stress, reduces inflammation, improves serotonin production and enhances sleep quality, all critical factors for navigating hormonal transitions successfully.

Dr. Jennifer Bettenhausen, a family physician at Vail Health, reinforces this approach: "I encourage women to focus more on being strong than being thin. Women who are physically strong, fit, eat well and manage stress tend to age gracefully."


The Mental Health Connection

Perimenopause doesn't just affect your body, it profoundly impacts your emotional well-being. Women in their 40s often describe their patience evaporating, their resilience diminishing and their ability to bounce back from stress declining dramatically.

Dr. Paige Baker-Braxton from Vail Health Behavioral Health explains this phenomenon as a "narrowing window of tolerance." Declining estrogen and fluctuating progesterone create the perfect storm: mood instability, compromised stress management and disrupted sleep compound each other, shrinking your capacity to cope with daily challenges.

Understanding this biological basis for emotional changes can be liberating. You're not losing your mind, your brain chemistry is shifting in measurable ways.


Building Resilience Through Connection

Despite these vulnerabilities, women possess remarkable strengths that foster resilience. Talking openly with friends or your behavioral health provider about perimenopause, menopause and aging sexuality accomplishes multiple goals: you gain practical recommendations for knowledgeable providers, find emotional support, normalize these changes and shed unnecessary shame. This collective empowerment transforms individual struggles into shared wisdom.

In the spirit of shared wisdom, some tips to help navigate through this life change include:
  1. Establish consistent sleep hygiene. Go to bed and wake at the same time daily. Eliminate screens an hour before bedtime. Keep your bedroom cool, dark and quiet. Avoid caffeine after early afternoon, as it affects your system for up to eight hours.
  2. Hydrate intentionally. As you age, your hypothalamus becomes less responsive to thirst signals. Don't wait until you feel thirsty — drink water throughout the day.
  3. Focus on whole foods and regular aerobic exercise. These aren't just strategies for managing symptoms — they're keys to longevity and disease prevention.
  4. Build and nurture your female friendships. Prioritize time with women who understand your experience. These connections are essential health interventions.
  5. Schedule preventive care visits. Both your primary care physician and OB/GYN can partner with you during this transition to help ease some of the symptoms.
  6. Challenge the myth of self-sacrifice. Caring for yourself isn't selfish — it's necessary. Ask for help. Pursue activities that bring you pleasure and joy.
Every woman's perimenopausal journey differs, but you don't have to navigate it alone or in silence. Armed with knowledge, supported by community and guided by skilled providers, you can approach this transition with confidence.